Understanding Self Development
Self Development – Keys to Unlock Your Inner Potential
You may have landed on this site by chance or more likely – “attracted” this site to you for a reason, perhaps you are looking for the self development keys to unlock your inner potential or help you manifest the life you desire. Either way – I’m certainly glad you’re here!
There are scads of different definitions for self-development and certainly many different ways to grow and evolve – as many ways as there are people on the Earth!
For simplicity sake and to outline the purpose of this blog for you I have put together a framework for self development as follows:
Starting with the basic insights.
YOUR view shapes what you do and how you do it.
The Basics
Are you completely pleased with your life? It wouldn’t surprise me if your initial reaction to that question was…“Is anybody totally pleased with their life?” Fair enough… so let me reword the question, “Is there any area of your life right now that you’re not happy with?”
You might be among the fortunate ones who can say they’re pleased in every area of their life. All the same, I bet you’re reading this right now because, like most of us, you are likely, unhappy with one or more areas of your life. If that’s the case, let me share with you how this book and self development can help you in your current situation.
Think about manifesting abundance, prosperity and joy as an adventure in the art of living the exceptional life through raising your self-development skills. Sure, it can be difficult work: and lots of it!
But… it’s also a “big time chance” for personal and professional growth in so many areas.
Remember: your *view* shapes what you do and how you do it.
Let me repeat that one more time:
Your view shapes what you do and how you do it.
Choose *now* to begin or continue your adventure of positivity and life skill development and watch your ideal life unfold in magnificent ways around you.
You must understand it first.
Understanding Self Development
Before you can tap into Self Development tools or grow yourself, you need to understand just what Self Development is.
Here’s the definition:
“Self development is the deliberate growth or development of a particular individual to bring out their potential and capabilities making them more aware of their inner feelings, belief systems to become a more conscious, whole or healthy human being”.
Whew… that truly is a mouthful but let’s simplify it a bit – how about this definition:
“Techniques that enable you to heighten your life in all areas”
I do happen to like this statement. It’s simple, compact and most importantly shows the WHY and the WIIFM (what’s in it for me) that we all like to see.
We all have very personal reasons that we choose a path of self development and it will ultimately mean different things to different individuals. For purposes of this site… I will assume that you have engaged in the process because you still have some closed doors to unlock on your way to your ideal life.
So how do you get rolling on the path to your ideal life and enjoy the rewards that self development surely brings?
Awareness has to come 1st, because without an awareness there can be no conscious decision to take action. Being aware also means asking yourself different questions and then consciously looking out for the answers.
So if your question is “There must be more to life than this?” your brain is already making a supposition that there’s more to life and as though by wizardry you begin to see things around you that maybe you didn’t notice before.
It’s ok to be selfish when you are speaking of manifesting your ideal life.
Because you can’t help anyone else if you can’t help yourself?
Extra Insight:
I learned recently that you actually can’t believe in yourself first (like so many of the self-help books would lead us to believe).
Here is the actual order of sequence in which people come to believe in themselves:
first – someone else believes in you more than you believe in yourself
second – you believe in someone else more than they believe in themselves
finally – you are able to genuinely believe in yourself
Help Yourself
Before you can help anyone else, you must be able to help yourself. You’re thinking, easy to write… hard to implement – right? But, it’s really not – here’s the all important secret:
Take time daily to do something for yourself. This is so KEY.
Too many people go through their day giving of themselves to other people, their job etc. and don’t have time for themselves. Even if you give yourself 15 minutes a day, that’s time with yourself to reflect and center on the most crucial person in your life, YOU.
The idea here is to begin by going within, doing something consciously kind for yourself. We must first feel good about who we are and what we have to provide before we can give to other people.
Some ideas for connection with your inner True Self:
Meditate – sit, relax, breathe deeply, reflect on all you have to be grateful for in your life;
Take the time for a hot bath incorporate soothing aromatherapy either with candles or oils,
Read a motivational book – with inspiring stories, wonderful poems or even quotes and affirmations that give you a moment to pause and reflect upon your inner beauty and power (visit the blog frequently… you’re about to discover some wonderful words to get you well on your way to self discovery).
Do you think all of this self development stuff is rubbish?
You couldn’t be more wrong!
What’s it About
Why is your self-development so critical to manifesting your ideal life? Well, it’s because you need to develop the traits of the successful people who have come before you and 99% of them will tell you it has everything to do with building up the power from within you.
If you learn how to command this power then you’ll surely find a way to be truly successful. Now sit down and ask yourself the question; why is personal development important to you?
Loving Yourself and Others
How do you love yourself “the right way”? You love yourself the right way when you love, honor, foster and show up for yourself, regardless. Despite the substantial forces or other people in your life who don’t love, support, or treat you the way that they should, or the way you want or need them to.
Being there for yourself, irrespective of what, builds your self-assurance and self-respect, you “feel successful” and able to accomplish anything. When you ooze that type of favorable energy and self-assurance, you attract the individuals and situations into your life that you want and need. It all begins with how you feel about yourself, and how you transmit that to the world. That’s how you make your ideal life a truth, from the inside out.
You love other people, the right way, when you afford them your time, care and thoughtfulness, without doing yourself undue harm, inconvenience or sacrifice. Sounds easy and uncomplicated, right? Then how come it’s so hard to accomplish?
There are a lot of personal and social reasons why it’s hard for a lot of individuals, particularly women, to love the right way. I think the first reason why it’s difficult for many of us to love the right way is because, at some level in our lives, in response to the damaging and non-supportive experiences we’ve had, we blanked out how completely “Divine”, amazing and worthy we really are.
At some spot, we started believing the damaging things that individuals said about us. Or we spent so much time attempting to prove our goodness and worthiness to other people, that we blanked out how to think for ourselves, determine our own goals and reward ourselves for our progress, rather than basing our self-worth and self-respect on the belief or attention of other people.
When you give up on yourself it means you’ve blanked out how truly amazing you are. But guess what, the good news is this… as soon as you recognize it and start behaving accordingly, everything else in your surroundings will react accordingly! When you know and trust this, you love yourself the right way and you put yourself in a place to win and overcome all of your obstacles and challenges.
Successful individuals believe in themselves first… and then they engage the resources and support they need to make their ambitions a reality. Unsuccessful individuals don’t believe in themselves or their power to produce what they want, so they wait for other people to give them what they want or need, or blame and resent other people for not giving them what they want or need.
The option is yours, you are able to put yourself in a place to be successful and win, or you are able to put yourself in a place to bomb depending on “how you see yourself”.
So commit to seeing yourself as the best thing since sliced bread or whatever innovation you think is really amazing and marvelous and you’ll be placing yourself right where you need to be to succeed.
Now that you have started on the road to commanding your inner power, you have just accelerated your success rate in any area of your life that you choose.
“Even a stone gets rounded by constant rubbing.”
~ Indian Proverb
