Law of Attraction is a Universal LAW – it works perfectly, each and every time.

But, then Why is it that I so frequently get what I do NOT want?

I know that when I first started my journey to self-development or inner enlightenment I wanted more than anything to understand “how” the law of attraction worked. I have always been considered a “positive” person, even called Pollyanna by some… so why is it that the life of my dreams wasn’t instantly manifesting?

What I didn’t realize then was that my unconscious or subconscious mind was wielding 90% of my power and yet… I wasn’t properly accessing it to alter it’s programming.  When I found this quote this morning on Facebook, I couldn’t help but share it:

Whatever the financial situation you are currently in, it is one that you have brought into reality through your thoughts. If it is not what you want, then you have created it unconsciously, but still you created it. When you can see this you will understand how powerful you are at creating. And now all you have to do is create what you want, consciously!

With so many caught up in the hypnotic rhythm of the “bad economy”, the “recession”, the “depression” – it’s no wonder that many find themselves also caught in a terrible financial situation.  But, despite what you may want to believe… it’s NOT the economy’s fault, NOT the government’s fault nor the fault of the banks… it’s the result of your subconscious, creating EXACTLY what you believe.  You create your own experience whether you want to accept it or not.

The challenge is to change your experience to be what you truly desire.  And to do that you have to harness your true power – your power to co-create.  It’s not as simple as “changing” your thinking.  Especially since many of your “thoughts” emanate from your subconscious mind.  And many of us remain unconscious to those thoughts.

But, there are things we can do to harness our power and attract abundance.  Here are just a few ideas:

1. Be an observer… watch for your “feelings” – your feelings are a reflection of your inner thoughts – your subconscious thoughts.  Before they manifest into emotions – you can assess your feelings and have a pretty clear idea of what you are subconsciously thinking.

EX] – feeling anxious – what is it that you fear?  What is it that may be a limiting belief leading you to have that fear?

2.  Meditate - to make a closer connection with your higher self.  Just getting in touch with your inner light can help to strengthen the connection with the Universe.  This will heighten your awareness of your feelings and thereby your subconscious thoughts as well.

3.  Ask yourself empowering questions. Noah St. John calls this “afformations”.  Many of us are used to affirmations but… have also seen or experienced the negative results from them.  You can’t trick your brain anymore than you can trick the Law of Attraction!  You cannot make it believe a lie and therefore produce magnificent results for you.

Ex] – You look in the mirror and state clearly with conviction – ” I am rich” – now.. how do you feel?  Like – Nah… I’m not rich, I’m struggling to pay the bills.  Say it again… different result?  Nope

Now try this – look in the mirror and ASK – “Why am I so wealthy?” – now… how do you feel?  Like – hmmm…. I’ve got a great family, I’ve got a wonderful home, I live in a great country… etc.

That’s the beauty of asking empowering questions or using “afformations” instead of affirmations.  When you ask questions… your brain MUST start searching for the answer.  So, when you propose positive empowering questions you start to retrain the brain to search for the “good” the “positive” the reasons that you are wealthy. Your outer experience then will reflect what you are “predominantly” thinking, so you just have to shift your 90% power machine (the subconscious mind) to predominantly thinking in the direction of your desires.

Pretty cool – huh?  Now, don’t go using it against yourself and asking those negative questions that we so frequently do “unconsciously” like… “why am I so broke? – find yourself thinking that… or even stating it aloud -shift your focus – ask instead “why am I so wealthy?”

Aspire ~ Strengthen ~ Evolve

In joy,

Loreen

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Self Development Reflection – I ask for help when I need it.

I am humble enough to turn to a friend when I am in need. There are people around me who love me more than I know and they are just one phone call away. My friends and family consider it a blessing to be able to help me.

I am free from apprehension when it comes to asking others for assistance because I would do the same for them if they were in need. I turn to my loved ones for help because the people who support me do so out of love, not obligation.

When I need help, I reach out to those around me without hesitation. It is irrelevant why I need help. Whether life presents a challenge from outside of me or I get myself into more than I can handle, I still reach out for help.

I am grateful to have people I can count on to come to my aid during challenging times. I treasure those friendships by nurturing them. When friends turn to me for help, I go out of my way to meet their needs plus give them a little extra.

Loving others extravagantly ignites the spark of our friendship and causes them to care deeply for me. I accept the love of my friends the same way I expect them to accept my affection. I create a caring environment within my relationships.

Today, I choose to let go of my pride and reach out to those who love me. I give those around me an opportunity to bless me by sharing my needs with them.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Who can I turn to when I need help?
2. Why should I accept the assistance of others?
3. When was the last time I asked for help?

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When you believe in yourself and you’re sure that you’ll succeed at something, you have self-confidence. Throughout life, your level of self-confidence might fluctuate when you’re faced with challenging situations. However, you have the power to build your self-confidence.

Although parents can encourage young children to believe in themselves, as an adult, only you hold the keys to strengthening your own confidence.

If you find that you’re feeling less self-assured than you’d like, you can step up and take action to shore yourself back up. Review the following strategies to find inspiration.

Take personal responsibility to build your self-confidence using these methods:

1.    Select a mentor. If you want to believe in yourself, seek someone who you think exhibits great self-confidence. Consider this person to be your model of self-confidence. When selecting a mentor, ask yourself:

•    Does he stand straight and strong?

•    Is he relaxed and open to others?

•    In addition to these traits, maybe he has a good sense of humor and looks people straight in the eye when he speaks to them. Or perhaps he models other characteristics you admire. Having someone to emulate is incredibly inspiring. Modeling after your mentor enhances your self-confidence.

2.    Identify what you’re doing right in your life. Sure, you know your shortcomings, but what about all those things you do well? Everyone excels at some tasks or activities. Seek out what those things are for you.

•    Make a list of what you believe you’re good at.

•    Consider this: no one in the world has the same unique qualities and strengths that you do in the way that you do.

•    What are you doing right? If you know the answer to this, your self-confidence will bloom.

3.    Pretend you’re self-confident. You can most likely identify times and situations in your history when you didn’t feel particularly positive. Think about how you handled some of them.

•    On your good days, you put your chin up and plowed forward into the situation at hand. You pretended you believed you could do it. And chances are, you did!

•    Going forward, on the days you feel the least self-confident, think of your mentor and pretend that you’re confident like he or she is.

•    Believe in yourself. Have faith that you’ll make it through.

4.    Make a list of your strong points. What character traits do you have to offer that are of great benefit to you or others?

•    Are you patient, kind or caring? Identify personality characteristics that you’re proud of. Ponder your strong points. Knowing yourself will enhance your self-confidence.

5.    In your daily life, notice when you do something well. Perhaps you just cleaned up your car and it looks awesome. Maybe you completed a report and it’s the best you’ve ever written.

•    Recognize each day the times when you excel. Perhaps you helped your child through a difficult time or you made a great chocolate cake.

•    Little efforts add up to build your self-confidence.

6.    Celebrate your progress. Take notice of your good fortune.

•    When you’ve met or surpassed your goals, celebrate! Rejoice in your own successes. Congratulate yourself as you build the self-confidence you seek.

7.    Choose optimism as a daily approach to everything. Strive to be positive in life’s journey.

•    When you make the decision to find the best in whatever life brings you, your self-confidence will soar.

Strengthening your self-confidence is within your reach. Choosing a mentor, knowing your strong points, and celebrating the attainment of your goals are just a few of strategies that build your self-confidence. Promise yourself today that you’ll strive to strengthen your belief in yourself. You have a legitimate right to live your life with great self-esteem.

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Doing the right thing benefits us all.

Self Development Key Idea… The “Right Thing” Benefits You As Well

Martin Luther King

Why is he inspiring? Martin Luther King is most significantly known for his “I have a dream” speech in which he stood for what he believes in. This speech contributed to public awareness of civil rights movements and also made him recognized as one of the greatest orators in history.

What can he teach? Do things for the greater good of mankind, instead of just focusing on your own constraints.

Quote: “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”

The “Right Thing” Leads To Success

True success doesn’t come from getting things at any and all cost, but from conducting yourself and in such a way as to benefit others and the greater good. Most successful people will tell you that an outward, ethical approach to life will pay off in a lot of ways.

Sincerity is specified as freedom from deceit, hypocrisy or fraudulence. There are many scammers out there that claim to have the next miracle. These people so prevalent that it seems like these dishonest ways must be the only way to be successful. Luckily, that’s not the case. The people who perpetrate these scams tend to get tripped up. Dishonesty might work in the short run, but long-term success demands sincerity.

Personal integrity is vital. A dedication to openness, honesty, and high standards signifies a real leader.  If the people in your life can’t trust you, they won’t help you. The truth is that success only comes with the assistance and support of others. Set expectations high, even for yourself, and handle every situation with the integrity you require from others.

Courtesy is displaying suitable social conduct and being respectful to other people. Successful people are careful not to burn too many bridges, and make sure to always be “on” publicly. Courtesy is critical and treating everybody with respect will pay off in spades. Don’t presume that once you find success that it’s acceptable to treat people badly.

Wisdom isn’t just book smarts, but the ability to couple that knowledge with reasoned judgment. That is, wisdom lets you discern what is necessary from what isn’t. Wisdom is what divides the experts from the merely schooled and generally bounds from the seasoning of experience, whether good or bad. Successful people learn from every decision they make, every obstacle they face, and every triumph they savor.

Charity is more than just giving to the greater good, but is as well a habit of giving the benefit of any doubt. People need to be responsible for making a difference in their community, country, and the world. As you earn success and wealth, repaying shouldn’t be a question.

Daily Affirmation

Integrity, Integrity, Integrity – do the right thing, for the right reason, the right way.

Aspire ~ Strengthen ~ Evolve

~Loreen

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Self Development Key – Comprehending what true courage is and how to implement it in your life.

Inspirational Courage and How To Get It

An Inspiring Story About Nelson Mandela

Why is he inspiring? Nelson was a huge part of the anti-apartheid cause in South Africa. He was imprisoned for 27 years due to his attempts in leading the conversion for a multi-racial democracy but he finally triumphed with his mission.

What can he teach? Be courageous in your attempts and fight for the matters you believe in.
Quote from Nelson Mandela: “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

Developing Courage
Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s the strength to be whom and what you are, in spite of the fear! Here are tips to develop courage and release the fears that block us from accomplishing our goals.

1. Acknowledge the fear. Don’t make excuses and name it something else. You can’t defeat or move through your fear if you don’t acknowledge it per se. You can fault somebody else, you can call it inconceivable or you can simply admit that you’re afraid. Once you acknowledge that fear is in operation, you can start to alter it.

2. Acquire understanding from the fear. What am I founding this fear on? Opt to see a richer truth. We feel fear when we trust the lies that our ego is telling us. We believe what we have swallowed as truth either consciously or unconsciously.

What do you trust as truthful?

There’s a story about loved ones that would assemble for holidays and special affairs and prepare a roast of beef. Each time they’d prepare it they’d prepare it the same way. They’d take the roast and lop off both ends and set it in the pan. This was a custom that was handed down from mother to daughter to daughter, etc., till one day, one of the daughter’s husbands asked her, “Why do you lop off both ends of the roast?” She responded that her mother had always done it that way, “Let’s go ask her.” Then they went and asked her mother, and she answered that it was because that’s the way her mother had always performed it. They chose to ask grandma and she answered, “Because that’s the way my mother always served it. I don’t do it that way any longer; we only did it that way since the pan was too small to hold it.”

See the falsity in the fear that you have harbored. What rules have you determined for yourself? Do you prefer to keep living by them? You’re the selector.

3. Dedicate to courage. Announce the deeper truth. Persistently reprogram yourself for success and brave actions. Remember that eminent love and great accomplishments demand great risk.

4. Confront the fear. Sense the fear and do it anyhow. Respect your courage. Take action.

• Respect yourself every time you face a fear. Particularly the little ones.
• When you have admitted its only fear keeping you back, you can proceed through it like a brave warrior.
• Parachutes weren’t shown trustworthy by having individuals carry them around on their backs. The device proved its worth once somebody jumped.

Daily Affirmation
Everyday, in every way, I am becoming more courageous.

Aspire ~ Strengthen ~ Evolve

In faith and courage,

Loreen

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Self Development Reflection Exercise – I am the change I want to see in others.

Each day I work to offer positive change to others. When I am upbeat and happy, others see the value of that mindset. It’s easy to be happy!

There’s so much to be thankful for and I find joy everywhere I look. As I become more positive, others follow my lead.

To encourage others to change, I show them the value of my own transformation. The more I show them my inner beauty and happiness, the more they want what I have. As I transform myself, others around me want to improve too. Through intentional growth, I can improve the world, one person at a time.

Self-improvement is important to me. As I grow, I see more of the good in others. Every change I make brings me closer to the person I truly want to be. I enjoy finding new ways to do things better. Each day, I focus on being the best “me” I can be. If I have a setback, I regroup and try again because discouragement has no place in my life.

I understand that everyone makes mistakes. I avoid getting frustrated if I fail to do something just right. As long as I am growing, I am happy, even if my changes are small. Seeing my good works affect the lives of others brings me great joy.

Today, I am the positive change I want to see in others.

Self-Reflection Questions:

What can I do to bring more positive change into my life?

1. How can I persuade others to change by becoming more positive?
2. Is there more I can do to bring beneficial growth into the lives of other people?

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Manifesting your ideal life will require happiness. Easy to say – more difficult for some to achieve. Using these self development keys you’ll be on the happy path in no time.

When it comes to creating happiness, your “feeling” and attitude plays a crucial role.

Unhappy now?  Take a look at your predominant thoughts are they negative or positive?  Are you spending more of your valuable time thinking of:

• what you don’t have;
• the opportunities that passed you by
• the terrible things that have happened to you in the past,
• and the horrible things that may happen to you in the future.

Self-development key: Time for a serious attitude adjustment

Shift the way you view your situation. See the good in everything that happens. A positive mental attitude is decidedly a good place to begin as it helps you to feel better and what you “feel” on the inside WILL be reflected on the outside in what you attract and manifest.

Doubt me?  What does your life look like right now?  Does it accurately reflect what you “feel” – not what you think… what you “feel”.

Make a firm decision right now to live your life with happiness and to focus on joy – watch your attitude reach new heights you didn’t even know you had!

If you’re ready to commit – read on to learn HOW to implement this self development key:

I. Gratitude

An attitude of gratitude requires an ongoing allegiance to thankfulness in every moment. Not only should you treasure the important stuff like your loved ones, home, job, friends, and health… you should likewise appreciate the smaller things in life like having a hot cup of coffee on a cold winter day or, getting a great deal on a new pair of shoes, getting a compliment from somebody you didn’t expect, or even watching mother nature do her work in a beautiful spring rain.

II. Optimism

Optimism is a big element because it calls for you to expect the best, regardless of the difficulties that may come your way. Instead of obsessing and vexing about the negatives, with optimism you’ll invest to giving most of your attention to the good things coming your way, and you’ll see that more beneficial opportunities will come to your way if you have optimism.

III. Assurance

Feeling unsure of yourself or your capabilities is the direct opposite of a your new commitment to a positive attitude. Believe in the gift that you have been given; the power to create your life.  By ramping up your confidence and asserting your capabilities to do anything you wish, you’ll feel strong, mighty and in control of your total happiness.

IV. Faith

Some say this is the opposite of fear.  Trust your inner power, the gift mentioned above and make your decisions based on what “feels” right.  Choose happiness and fulfillment in your life. These decisions may not all be easy, however, simply deciding to believe in yourself and trust your inner vision your successes will grow and build your confidence.

V. Flexibility

A wise man once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but, expecting a different result.”  Einstein – ok, a bit beyond wise – straight our brilliant!

A fixed mentality fosters stagnancy and negativity, which detracts from your happiness. Keeping an open mind, having faith in trying new approaches on the other hand, fosters greater flexibility and resource, which helps you in defeating obstacles and confronting challenges.

It’s Self Development…”Stretch and grow” I say!

VI. Balance and Breathe

Taking the time to dedicate to yourself – to connect with your inner being is one of the most crucial self development keys I could share.  Sometimes “life” has it’s way of taking over… negativity creeps in, doubt along with it.  But, deep breathing and meditation can quickly center your life.

This is the channel through which you co-create – best to keep open lines of communication!  It’s relaxing, soothing and will bring you back if you get out of focus with your commitment to happiness!

VII. Smile and Invite Humor

The final key is fun and easy!  Remember to smile – you can’t help but re-adjust to happy when you are smiling.  When answering the phone, driving in your car, even feeding the dogs put on a smile and watch your life elevate along with all of those around you.

And don’t forget to laugh occasionally – humor can be the most amazing medicine for anything that ails you!

So, you’ve committed to an attitude adjustment – from negative to positive or from neutral to energized positive.  Remember the 7 self-development keys to unlock your inner happiness: gratitude, optimism, assurance, faith, flexibility, balance and remembering to smile and laugh.

In joy and abundance,
~Loreen

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We are all on the same planet and being humble can teach us something.

Self Development Key To Being Humble – No One Is Better Or Less

Mother Teresa

Why is she inspiring? She spent 45 years of her life helping the sick, poor and dying while raising consciousness for her organization: “Missions of Charity”. Her work began in India then extended to other parts of the planet.

What can she teach? We are all one, you are not by yourself in this journey of life, and for that reason you shouldn’t see yourself as more or less than anyone else.

Quote: “If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”

How To Be Humble

Give thanks

Make certain you take every chance you have to thank other people for what they do and what they assist you with. Individuals don’t achieve anything on their own and it always takes assistance from others. Thank them for this assistance.

Redirect Praise

Redirecting praise is of value to be more humble and modest. If you don’t take praise outright and rather, redirect it to others who assisted you, trained you or even let you do something, you pass on that praise to other people without accepting the credit directly.

You Don’t Have to Be Correct

A humble individual never tries to outmatch someone else and make themselves look better or brighter. This includes having to be correct. When you try to show you’re correct, or even when you say something simple like “I know”, you’re showing dominance over the other individual. Rather than wanting to be correct, even if you know something already, merely say, “intriguing, thanks for that.”

It’s Not All About You

Individuals are perpetually reaching for success and they often feel really proud of themselves for getting to where they are. Humble individuals are not proud and recognize that they didn’t get themselves here. They recognize that other people helped them, boosted them and assisted them to get to where they are.

Don’t Go First

First isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but being first can resonate as competitive, self boosting or demoting of others. None of those things are usual for a humble individual. In a group or workplace, if you don’t be first to verbalize, participate or get involved, you give other people a opportunity to be first.

Value Everything

So many matters around us are not our doing, we often forget to realize our own insignificance since we get so centered on our own lives and achievements. Well to be humble, it’s crucial to acknowledge and appreciate all the fantastic things around us. Value the place you live, the wellness, wealth and happiness you receive or have opportunity for. Valuing things adds greatly to a person’s humility and recognizing that we have so much to be grateful for builds on many of the additional items in this list.

Hear More Than You Talk

Like the item above, “Don’t Go First” it applies to hearing in a fuller sense. Hearing more than you talk can be very mighty and if you use this you can learn a lot of things about other people and practice humility in how you react.

Don’t Judge Other People

Finally but not least, a very significant aspect of being humble is to not judge other people. Judgment is a grievous thing and you can’t stay open minded, receptive to ideas, empathetic or appreciative of others if you’re judging them or their thoughts. Everybody is different and have different thoughts and when you judge those, you’re really showing that you have some overseeing significance or might to make a judgment call, which you surely don’t if you want to be a humble person.

Daily Affirmation

I will be more loving, humble, forgiving, giving, kind and patient with others and myself.

Aspire ~ Strengthen ~ Evolve

Humbly yours,

~Loreen

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Society Like Self-Development is Ever Evolving.

What hasn’t changed is our desire and need for inspiration and motivation.

As a civilization, our ability to find out huge amounts of data is among the most prominent qualities we have. Oftentimes, nevertheless, we come upon things that hold us back. So just where do we find inspiration and motivation in today’s world?

There have been many inspirational people who have had lessons to teach in this area. They included: Princess Diana, Mahatma Ghandi, Martin Luther King and Buddha… just to name a few.

One of the things that is a limiting belief is thinking that the judgments of other people are true. The misfortunate thing is, many individuals who are willing to put us down, the ones that can have us question ourselves, never really make anything of their own lives.

Instead of looking at anyone and everybody to instruct you about life, we should look for individuals that have truly made a difference in their own lives.

One thing we need for inspiration and motivation is courage. Courage isn’t the absence of fright. It’s the force to be whom and what you are, despite the fear!

As well we need to be a visionary. The person who has imagination is one who looks at possibilities. The visionary, then again, is an individual who gives rise to a particular outcome based on ideas and goals that once merely lived in their minds.

We must as well be able to grow. Many books and studies have been written about the topic of self development. Many supposed experts and leaders have tried to present mixed points of views on this subject and a lot of them are right thoough some have plainly missed the boat! This sends many of us into different levels of perceiving. However, it’s up to each of us to choose whether we want to become prosperous or not.

There is also kindness, humbleness, following through, enjoying life and reaching for opportunity.

These are just a very few of the things required for motivation and inspiration in the 21^st century. We have just scratched the surface here. Finding motivation and inspiration in the 21st century does not have to be a unmanageable matter. Just look around you and learn and use the tools available.

Aspire ~Strengthen ~ Evolve

Wishing you an abundant and prosperous journey,

Loreen

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Self Development Reflection Exercise – I am an agent of peace.

When I enter a room, peace follows me in. The genuine smile on my face dispels the effects of strife and sharing my smile with others makes my joy contagious. The soothing effect of my presence draws people in.

My positive attitude and serene spirit attract people to me like a cool, deep well draws the thirsty. My personality is refreshing to be around because I decline to allow my circumstances to dictate my behavior.

My emotions no longer rule my actions. Instead, I take charge of my feelings and behave in a way that is true to my personal values. Through self-discipline, I rise above my mood and immerse myself in peace.

Regardless of the situation in which I find myself, my responses are serene. Even when time is running out and I feel pressure to act abruptly, I think before I act because calm responses soothe the soul.

I prevent regret by keeping a level head at all times and resisting the urge to become hostile. My positive perspective enables me to keep small things in proportion so I no longer lose my peace over insignificant details.

When others are longing for peace, they turn to me because I cultivate it in my own life. My mouth utters only words of comfort and encouragement because I like to give people hope. I reduce constraints by focusing on answers.

Today, I choose to look for peaceful solutions to any difficulty that may arise. I abstain from panic and stress by keeping things in perspective and focusing on the good.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do today to diffuse strife and stress?
2. Are my emotions in control of my actions or does my behavior reflect my values?
3. How does my attitude affect my environment?

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